She has agreed to move out. Her mother said she can move in but her father has to approve. He will not approve because he has told her she can’t live there and be involved with the OM. I wish he would let her just move in with them.
Her honesty was pretty raw and yes in a way a form of arrogance on her part. She admits she can’t break it off. I have already moved everything out of the MBR. I’ve even encouraged her to move in with the OM. She said she would never do that because of our son.
I’ll be honest with you guys I don’t see any other choice but divorce. At least I can get some of my respect, self-worth, and self-esteem back. I’ve already come to the conclusion that she will never stop until she can live with this guy and spend her time with him.
Losing her son may help bring some clarity but I’m not sure. Guys I’m really ready to file for divorce. Her honesty had a sense of arrogance and entitlement to it. Very humiliating and unbelievably raw. How can someone say those things and be saved or want to save her marriage. She even admits that it is him and her against the world or in her words they are criminals together.
She has no desire to save the marriage. She's in complete 100% limerence with this guy and isn't going to realize it until it wears off/she hits rock bottom/he dumps her. My wife and your wife are in the exact same boat. [censored] for our children the most. Unfortunately by the time she does realize what a dumbass she is, you'll have moved on long before.
In a previous post she admitted she doesn't really know if she wants to be with him, but also that she doesn't want to be in the marriage either. Been there and heard that. I hear a lot on these forums of people talking about the LBH being plan B. It really [censored] not even being plan A or B doesn't it?
The freeing part of life comes when you don't give a flying ^#%#. My life is just fine without her in it, if she doesn't want to be a part of it.. Well %#%$ her. I'll enjoy myself and maybe find someone down the line that does want to be a part of it, if not, I'll be a damn fine father and man living his best life in the meantime.
