I can one up you, my friend. My exH was my friends ex boyfriend. I made a really bad mistake at 18/19 and I’m paying for it ever since. She has forgiven me sometime ago and we are still very close friends. I have not forgiven myself yet, Though. It was out of character for me. When everyone abandoned me , and he gave me attention, I took the bait. And we all know how that turned out.
But maybe it is time to forgive myself and stop hating myself for it. I always told myself I absolutely deserve what’s coming to me for the rest of my life for what I did. But maybe no more. I’ve learned my lesson. A kazillion times over. And said friend always says if anyone deserves it, it’s me, and I even hurt her badly.
So yes, let’s forgive ourselves and make this year the beat and take the bulls by the horn. It’s time.
