Wow I haven't been on my own sich in over a month.

I've honestly been avoiding it as I didn't want to come here to complain.

So here is what has happened so far on XW side of the street since then. I'm only stating this to point out inconsistencies in her behaviors. Thanksgiving day. XW dropped S2 off at my apartment. Expected me to say hi to her grandmother in the vehicle which I did. I asked her if she wanted to pop in and say hi. She didn't want to come in for a sec to say hi to my family, and used getting her grandmother home as an excuse...(Ok. N.P.)
Her SOP response for anything extra curricular on her time is "I have an appointment." Doesn't volunteer anything. Been that way since April. (Nothing changed there.) Week after Thanksgiving I get the "I have an appointment, I have an appointment bit." She shows up one weeknight to pickup S2 in a brand new SUV. I expected this because my cousin told me she was shopping for new car. but was a little perturbed given how we are both losing income for the last 4 months due to S2 being sick and Im stretching food, and just making rent. I say nothing. I don't event comment on the new car. I invite her in to write her a check for monies I owed her on Auto Ins. She looks over my place, is glad for me. Admits is a little jealous of new place. Admits she also cannot afford new car payment after taking over house and mortgage. (I say nothing.) Write her the check, and she leaves with S2.

She has a bad habit of always asking me to swap dates a lot with S2 to revolve around her needs and social schedule. Always asking me to sacrifice my personal time. Unless it's warranted, information revealed why, and for legitimate reasons. I typically refuse "Sorry I can't. Have plans." We reschedule Santa photos due to S2 being sick early Dec. She attempts to get me to reschedule to her convenience on my weekend off. I refuse. "Sorry I have plans." (Pretty much her default responses since April.) I actually did have plans that night. I've asked her specifically to give me space and she has for the most part. But somewhere in the back of her mind she's still trying to play happy joint family, and invite me to certain things, exclude me from others, and only invites me for the sake of S2. (So I politely refuse most of them unless important milestones. Haloween, Santa, etc. No friend zone for me thanks.)

She asked me twice prior if I would like to have dinner with her after Santa photos. Asks me again the day of pictures. I politely decline. "Thanks but I already ate."
We reschedule for mid week. Meet them at the mall. I get there early. She walks in behind me, and I don't realize it. I go looking at stuff in AX to kill time. She calls. I don't answer. I walk out of store. Meetup. Waiting for Santa she tries to make small talk with me about how malls aren't crowded anymore around Christmas time. I reply. "Maybe Amazon has something to do with it?" S2 runs into Victoria Secrets. Starts whining because I picked him up. I say to him "I'm sorry I know. We can try Fredricks of Hollywood next time." Lol..XW says "Oh Jeez" I  notice somethings XW will find funny with me, and at other times she is like whatever. Once in a while we'll share a joke or laugh together, but otherwise we don't talk. I've stopped answering all of her calls and take 4-6 hours on non emergency texts when regarding S2.

I've asked my for Christmas belongings, lights, etc. From marital home. She was nice enough to pack them up for me. I notice she keeps trying to give me objects from the relationship like joint themed Christmas sweaters. I politely decline. I get the "No? Ok!" That and once in a while wants to do something joint with S2 every couple of months, otherwise does her own thing with and without him without any information volunteered my way. I reject them too (Except Haloween and pumpkin picking right before I moved out of marital home.) Recently she tried giving me a joint themed Christmas sweater for both of us. Asked me if I wanted it.  Said "Nah...Thanks I have a few new ones of my own I ordered."

Recently she asked me to watch S2 Sun. Jan 19th into Jan 20th overnight, go into work late and drop S2 off at MIL's. She doesn't state why in her email. (But I know why. GF getting married/bachelorette weekend/hotel reservations etc..) I simply reply back "Sorry I can't" Had suspicion going back to February when XW first started getting involved with bridal party is when rings came off and she starting "taking better care" of her feminine hygiene if you catch my drift. Nails, makeup, perfume, different clothing, weight loss surgeries, etc. Coukd be my paranoia from past but the red flags were there.

We agreed in text to start up mediaion again in Jan monies depending.  I initiated that text. I've noticed some things around the martial home that don't mean anything as far as sich changing, that kind of mean nothing, but worth mentioning. In her new office/workout room. (Old MBR) she put up painting I gave to her on our wedding day of two Adiriondack chairs at the beach, and another mural about love that I gave to her on vday a couple of years ago. I also noticed the ornaments on her tree we received are on it gifted from relatives from wedding, and an ornament from 2009 celebrating our marriage from her Mom. (Probably nothing probably just her being practical.)

Im debating on going to her and her Mom's church on Christmas Eve with S2. MIL invited me. My family bailed om me for Christmas Eve after I already decorated, bought the food and everything.. Really disappointed in them. Some reasons are valid, and some are
pi$$ poor pride and excuses. But its teaching me not to remain attached to people or outcomes. MIL left me a present at the marital home. I haven't opened it yet. XW invited me over for Christmas morning brunch, but again I politely declined and told her I have plans. Vets. Should I go to church Christmas Eve with them? Any opinions welcomed.