I have been married 18 years and have two daughters. It's never been a happy marriage and I do take ownership for my role in contributing to the downfall of the marriage. None of us got marriage counseling and we should have done. Instead my wife allowed resentment, bitterness and disrespect to build up in her over the years,.
She recently connected with a friend who is also in an unhappy marriage and cheating on her husband. This friend of hers encouraged her to ask me for an open marriage and I refused. I moved out of the MBR and into the spare room once she dropped the bomb.
I since found out she cheated on me a few weeks after the BD. I confronted her with the evidence and it's undeniable. I have successfully stopped this affair but it doesn't mean she won't try again as she told me she wants to start dating next year. My kids know about the separation but not the affair.
We both own the house and she has offered to buy me out. She fits the typical WW mindset. Some of what she has said to me is outrageous. We currently have an in-house separation and after some initial fights we get on reasonably well.
She told me she considers herself a "single woman" and that she intends to date other men. This is someone who once had good values and morals.
I have been following Sandi's list and trying to do a 180. I do love my wife and I do want to reconcile but WW does not want any of it.
Some of the things she has said to me over the last few weeks:
"What if my future partner offers to buy you out?" "How can I move on if you're still living here?"
I told her I eventually want 50/50 child custody and she says it should be weeks for her and weekends for me as I would have "more contact hours." - I said that is not 50/50 - more like 78/22.
I told her I wanted to buy a 3 bedroom house once she buys me out and she said "why do you need 3 bedrooms? Why can't the kids have bunk beds and share a bedroom?" - I was like WTF - what right do you have to tell me how many bedrooms I should have,
So that's my situation so far - I have since stopped doing anything I usually do for her and have kept contact to emails only.
