Hi, Blu. I’ve been reading here since my H’s BD in June and just recently started posting in the MLC board. I’ve been following your sitch, and your posts have been really helpful to me as I’ve begun to understand my H as a nice guy who has always devoted himself to making the women in his life (friends, mom, me) happy, but not himself. Until BD, I didn’t realize he was doing this to such an extent; I really believed he was mostly happy. Now he seems to be riding high on his new life with no responsibilities to anyone but himself and is planning to file for D in the new year—well, he seems to think he is having the time of his life, but to me he often seems angry and unhappy. In your posts to May, you also reiterated to her that she isn’t wholly responsible for a SSM. I really needed to read that too. I wanted to thank you for your posts here, and if you have time after the holidays, I would so appreciate any perspective you have on my sitch. I’m thinking I may need to really concentrate on learning how to drop the rope going forward. Merry Christmas, Blu!
