Its hard in the beginning You can create new mantras or a new go to thread.... This will take practice on your part
Thank you for your response, peace. I’ve saved bits of other threads that have been helpful in the past and will try to return to them when I need a boost. I think, “It’s not about me and I can’t fix him” is one I need to keep repeating. Also: no expectations.
H left Saturday evening with his dirty laundry and came back at 6 am this morning with clean laundry, then left for work. Honestly, it’s easier for me to relax here when he’s gone, but then there’s the annoying question fluttering in the back of my mind: When will he be back? I fantasized about changing the locks, so that he could more easily live his new life with the friends who appreciate him so much! I think it’s getting to me because, you know, it’s Christmas. We’d normally be leaving on a trip together to go see our families, but he let me know during the D convo a few weeks ago he told his mom he’s not coming this year. I’m a little unsettled about leaving him here in the house with the pets he’s been ignoring.
I assume, if he is here when I leave, he’ll be sleeping. Too much to leave a note that says, “Merry Christmas”?
