until you reframe your mindset, you will continue to suffer. I did tell you she will most likely stumble. And stumble she did. For all intents and purposes she is an addict.
How would you treat your W if she was an alcoholic?
Do not try to get a rise out of her? And what is your son doing with a tracking app on his mother?!? I hope to got you did not enlist him to do your spying. In any case you should tell him to stop immediately and make sure he does. This business between you and your W is none of his business and he should keep his nose out! And I mean it.
You should also stop snooping. You snooping will do you no good. Watch her actions, not her words. She will be lost to you for an amount of time. There is nothing you can do to reel her back. You filing will not change a thing. It will only give her an "out" and an excuse that the big bad bbaler1 threw her out on her ear. I know the whole world knows that she cheathed on you with OM, but rest assured, in her mind you are at fault here and she will go to any lenght to argue that.
And another thing. If you get her fired, you will be on the hook for spousla support also. Nice going...
