Hi Alison. I too am concerned about your H's mocking behavior, and find some of what you wrote about to show he is still verbally abusive. My fears for your personal well being were calmed a bit by your post above, about how it damages the marriage, but not you. I hope that is true.
Which isn't to say I'm not still concerned or that we should take his behaviors lightly. It's still dangerous, and I don't think any of us want you settling into a routine of finding this acceptable or normal. I think you see that it is not.
It seems your plan now is to stay and see if things change over time. If it gets worse please don't hide it from us, we want to support you. Separating a second time sounds like it will be easier, but may be more difficult - I have no idea. But if it starts to ease-up that may be harder to track. I wonder if documenting his outbursts would be helpful to you? A birds eye view of how often he does his mocking, how often he is sarcastic, how often you feel he is trying to be honest with you in talking about it. A little abbreviation in a calendar, and looking at how often each behavior shows up in a week/month. Looking at it as "facts" of his behavior might prove useful to you?
