However, if you choose to keep them in your orbit, understand that your relationship with them will and must evolve. It will be less involved, and you will have to pull back quite a bit. I agree with ovrrnbw here - let W have her family first. They are her support during this.
No more R talks with them about you and W. Find a neutral sounding response with regards to how you communicate with them. "Yeah it's tough, but if it's ok I would rather not talk about this right now" is something I say now.
I agree. I need to cut them off when they discuss it with me. Her father has said I would always be welcome at their home. She has asked for me not to be out there at family outings but her father told me to come anyways. Probably wasn’t a good idea at the time. Still trying to decide about Christmas. I still think she is involved to some degree.
I was out of town today and my brother said he saw my W on the side of town where his new home is located. He said she was driving and assumes she is riding that way to pass by him or hope to see him. She can’t be dumb enough to go to his home because he lives in a sub-division full of people and across the road from my grandmothers house. Yes, across the road from my grandmothers house. They are now neighbors. Lol
