Cross countries separation EU

[Pack_19]

hi all,

wow thanks a lot! I have to say you guys always bring the nice reality slap, I do need it. One thinks he has understood the let her go mindset and what talking business means and yet I find myself thinking about her as of my W, the loving one I took for granted.

She has all reasons to be cold, she told me many times we were going down as a couple (on occasions too aggressively) but she did it, and I ignored her thinking how can she say that, we will get much better in the future. She must be feeling like I am the biggest jerk on earth, as in we separate and now you want to give me the full show. I know it is too late, but between fear and faith, I have chosen to believe.

I want to thank you all for your help and encouraging words. I will archive all photos, no matter how much it hurts, make a life for my children and me and come here anytime I want to ask her out or I feel like sending a loving message. I want to be that man again, how can I have gone from a confident, cheerful and fun person to a clinging sucker? I am sure I love her when even remembering the dreadful things she has said to me, I still think she is worth my marital purgatory this feels like, I want to grow old with her and I want to give her a whole different relationship.

When I talked about the little one I only meant I feel like he deserves to have mom and dad together and learn from them what it is to have a loving relationship. I am going to drop here the biggest question in my mind right now?

W is living in Seville now, where my family is also located. I have the option to be in Seville or Madrid for work due to frequent travel being the key. Without thinking about her now, in the future, say I managed to DB my situation, would it help to be in the same city? What is the experience with people who have successfully saved their M when relocation is in between?

I spend a lot of time on thinking about new 180s, how can I surprise her? my big one is NO MORE R TALKS. How on earth it is so hard? I am supposed to be a clever man and yet I feel like a child with an addiction. Other two big ones are VALIDATION and ACTIVE LISTENING. I am working on those along with myself. As I said, exercise, good food, piano, culture, my passion for cars and my children.

Thank you all, this forum is a peace island in the middle of the worst nightmare I have ever experienced!