6 months of MLC

[peacetoday]

Hi

Its hard in the beginning
You can create new mantras or a new go to thread....
This will take practice on your part

Something like:
H is in crises..
This is not about me..I cant fix this
while its sad and very painful, I will take care of myself
I will get through this..I am getting stronger day by day
I can set boundaries and create healthy patterns for me
I can still enjoy my life today..I am healing

think about what mantras feel good for you
therapy is so important now for you

I listen to a lot of U tube videos everyday

Positive speakers give free uplifting messages
churches, pastors, motivational speakers, therapists, coaches ect..
there are tons

Also:
You will see normal behavior mixed in
they sometimes may even be extra nice
they have touch and goes..where they come to reality

The thing is they are in a crises..most likely caused by unresolved childhood trauma
unless they are in therapy and even then, they only see the fantasy life as the way out of their pain
They cant understand that they may nede to resolve their pain in a healthy way
they are in DENIAL and cant be reached

You are doing good and as you continue to find support...you will get clearer and stronger

keep in mind:
Most LBS wind up landing on their feet.
Most of us here create a better life with or without them

This is a gift...for you to grow to go inward to resolve your issues and become who you want to be
The pain and the grief fades in time and we can create new either with our current spouse or ..
and if you ask anyone here,,, they will tell you years later how it all worked out..

hang in