He said you never game him space...then give him the space and time he needs to figure things out. No, you do not reach out....leave him completely alone. Right now, he's going to remember all of the things that were negative w/the relationship, because he needs a justification for leaving and feeling the way that he does.
I know you are anxious and feel like you need to pursue him and make him see reason, but that will not work. What works is if you keep the focus on you and you begin to live your life as if he may not return. There is always a 50/50% chance that he will return, but only if he sees a confident woman who is living her life to the fullest. He doesn't want to see a needy, begging, pleading woman chasing after him. When he sees that you are moving on w/your life and actually beginning to enjoy life again, he just might become curious and want to reconnect and reconcile. What were you like when you met each other? That is the person you need to be. The person he met.
Take the time and read The Divorce Remedy. There are a lot of threads on all of the forums that may help you each poster comes here and has a situation that they need guidance and assistance with...but at the end of the day, they learn to save themselves and learn how to dig deeper for patience and find themselves once again. You can do this too.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
