When I said we don't DB our children I should have been more specific. Yes, validate. Yes, actions not words. But do not detach. Our children need to know we are there for them. The Yes and No responses only and do not initiate do not work on our kids. They don't need to know what it would be like to lose us. They need to know that we are always there for them no matter how badly they treat us.
The one thing I've always found difficult about the lighthouse is how to show our H/Ws that we are still there for them without seeming like a plan B. There is no such difficulty with children. I love you. I am here for you. Words I could never say to my H but I need to say more often to my children.
