MLC or Exit Afffair?

[HesAble]

Yes, and keep in mind your friends typically just want to see you happy and they think you'll be happy quicker if you divorce.

One thing I learned was that I should never have talked to my friends or even really my family about all this - just makes it harder if things end up working out.

You really need to do your best to separate yourself from his mess. Figure out how you can be a better partner in the future - with him or someone else...only time will tell and nobody has any idea.

I am not sure. I think the two that are negative secretly never liked H in the first place so they now feel validated in their initial concerns about him. They have both called him a narcissist and said they always saw narcissistic tendencies. One says he is being mean in a very passive-aggressive way and she thinks I am in an emotionally abusive situation. H has never hit me but she thinks he is controlling me by threatening this divorce. She has also told me that another friend could not stand him, but never told me; I have not confided in that friend, thank goodness because I don't need more negativity.

Nevertheless, it is worth a try to tell the friends I have already confided in what kind of support I need.