I confided in a few really supportive friends (one is divorced but she was the WAW) about what I am going through. I wish I never had because two of them (especially the WAW) are so pessimistic about the prospect of the marriage being saved.

I have now gotten a counselor to talk to (wish I had done that earlier) but my friends check in regularly and ask questions, then start talking about what a narcissist I am with and how I should just take steps to prepare for divorce. One asks how on earth I could ever trust H again, particularly since I have no idea where he hangs out all night.This may be true but hearing it is not helping me with the DB process.

Thank God for this board where I can get positive reinforcement.

H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9
BD - 11/2019
Married 14 years; Together 20 years