Last night I stopped by her parents house to drop off a crock pot I borrowed. I tried to make it quick but her father cornered me and wanted to talk R. She has been going to their home more often and staying for long periods of time. I think this may be somewhat of a good sign. Her father has called her BS from day one. They are somewhat estranged and do not speak. He has shown tough love by telling her she could not live there and have a relationship with the OM. This is why she has been avoiding going over to there home as much as she did in the past.
Her dad claims she is telling them that she doesn't want the OM. I told him that there may be some truth in that but she hasn't came right out and said she wants to save the marriage. I have gone dark and she is fine with that and almost pulls away for a little while. Of course her dad is upset at this and thinks I should be cordial and happy when around her. I feel bad for her family because this has devastated them and has hurt her relationship with her father. He feels like it would be a shame if I don't attend Christmas at there house so I probably will for my kids sake.
Her parents want our marriage to be saved so badly that it does me no good to be around them. They continually try ti give me advice and her dad feels like she is such a loyal person that it will never be in her nature to file for divorce or dissolve of this relationship. The other aspect of this is they try to say she was in this same situation 18 years ago and that she sacrificed and toughed it out for me. (Speaking of my infidelity when I was 23 years old.) I do agree with them on this but my situation wasn't nearly this involved and I wasn't out right disrespectful to her. I haven't called or seen them in a while. Probably should have let her take it back to them.
Just felt like explaining my day yesterday. I have continued to have as little contact unless it is about the kids. The other issues we have discussed is our son moving into an apartment in college. We've also discussed some money issues and debt that we have.
