I feel so disrespected when my H does these hurtful things without apologizing (e.g., coming in at 6 and 7 a.m. after being out all night). The disrespect angers me. For those who have been DBing for a while, how did you get past the feeling disrespected and angry? It is killing me.
My feeling is that even if you want to divorce me, how can you mistreat me this way when I have been loyal to you for 14 years+? Thank goodness he is nice and warm to the children (although I do wonder how was able to completely switch to ice cold with me in a matter of 24 hours). It really is like a body snatcher took my real H and left me with a complete jerk.
I just assume that's what has happened (the body snatching) and try to realize that this isn't about us (the LBS). They are going through their own struggle and I try to be empathetic to that. The more I realize this is their issue, the less their words/actions affect me.
Not sure if that helps but over time it'll get a little easier. Whether it's positive or negative you can't read into anything they are saying at this point. It took my WW 10 months to apologize for staying out until 3am on the weekends while I was at home looking after our son. Patience and understanding are key...use this time to connect more with your kids and work on yourself.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
