I would trust yourself to know which way is best for you.
Im glad to hear your W is making a shift..It is rare we see a MLCer get to the other side, Im sure many do, but maybe posters dont update..
so this is hopeful at least for her and your kids I hope she continues to thrive and for you... no matter what the situation with your W..you may want to encourage this and buiid a solid coparenting friendship and help her along the way especially if she is in therapy and trying to work her issues out
leave the outcome to a higher source...
good luck
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