Flysolo - just wanna drop by and tell you that I love your writing. I'm sorry to see you here, but I've enjoyed reading your words.
It's funny that you said we should not DB our children. The other day I was just thinking some DB principles could also apply to our relationship with children. For me I've really tried to validate as much as I can. also detach from the choices they make that you don't necessarily agree with (as long as it is with the boundaries you set). Obviously we want to love on our kids as much as we can, but sometimes they really do need distance. I have boys and generally I have to ask 1000 Qs to figure out what's going with school/friends. But I've learned that at times they will come to you when they need to. Sometimes the best thing to do is to be there and be the light house for them.
