A bit of cold water. You don't know what she's thinking and frankly it doesn't help to waste time on it. Maybe she can see the damage. Maybe you didn't see the damage that brought her to this place (many LBS can't or see it too late)
Also, I don't believe in the Plan B. I've talked to a number of WAS and not one told be their plan B was their old spouse. Not one.
What do you mean you don't believe in Plan B?
I completely understand I don't know what she's thinking and I used to waste too much time trying to figure it out. Maybe she can see the damage but I honestly don't think she sees things like that as of yet. Also, we had a good marriage - lots of fun times together, no fighting or toxic crap, and lots of love...right around after our son was born things seemed to change and her dad became more and more sick until he finally passed away due to brain cancer. That's the damage I see Mario...the other option is that she just doesn't want to be with me anymore for whatever reasons she has but I don't think I specifically caused any damage. I also took care of our family financially...
Where I struggled with was thinking too much about our future and not enjoying the present, not taking her on dates after our son was born (but by this time she was already checking out a bit, even with our son), and we should have communicated better about things in general...if those are reasons to divorce then I'm clueless myself.
Those issues should have been discussed and resolved together - that's what you do in a marriage.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
