In the middle of the worst of my situation, we went to a holiday party for my kids daycare. We took probably one of the best Christmas photos we have ever taken. The W looked beautiful, kids are smiling, I look happy. In the end it was all just a show.
I still have the photo.
Can we PM on here? Mario, I'd like to hear your sitch.
Steve, thank you. I spent some time with my IC getting through some things. Changing my game plan a bit, she's going to try EMDR in addition to the CBT which sounds like it'll be affective.
I still think she may be planning her exit. I'd love to agree with the statement that she may not want the D but I'm not seeing many positive signs. I'm not to the point where I want to file myself.
Recent positive signs: Hasn't filed that I know of, acknowledged some of my change
Recent neutral signs: Stopped gaslighting me, gives more than one word answers now, buys my family xmas gifts, makes and serves dinner for all of us.
Recent negative signs: in separate rooms, doors closed, initiates few chats, may still be talking to OM, when talking to kids - calls me "your dad" and not "dad", 0 physical touch, no conversations asking about just me or my day, advised she doesnt trust my changes.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
