Thanks unchien - some good reminders in there. This is why posting here helps instead of acting on emotions or talking to family or friends.
I completely understand where she is coming from and I'm good at letting things go but it's still crazy that she still can't see the damage she's caused...I guess she still has a long way to go in her own healing.
A bit of cold water. You don't know what she's thinking and frankly it doesn't help to waste time on it. Maybe she can see the damage. Maybe you didn't see the damage that brought her to this place (many LBS can't or see it too late)
Also, I don't believe in the Plan B. I've talked to a number of WAS and not one told be their plan B was their old spouse. Not one.
