Yail - I am so rubbish at anything crafty. I start on some massively ambitious project, spend a fortune setting up, then quit after a week. I like to think that's why I'm good at what I do. I am good with being presented with a problem, coming up with an ambitions design, getting people to commit to spending money on the design, then leave it to other people to implement. Right now I've spent a fortune on baking 'stuff' with all intentions of doing lots of Christmas baking. It won't get done, and I'll be buying cakes and biscuits on the 24th.
I spent some time posting on Kas thread about how we don't DB our children, that we keep trying to get through to them and decided that I should take my own advice. So, I sent D13 a message (she was at a friends for the night) telling her have a good time, that I loved her and that I'd see her today. I didn't get anything back but hopefully it is enough that I sent it.
I also messaged H and said he was right when he said giving her space wasn't the answer. She needs to know that I am there for her. That my love is unconditional (he didn't use those words - but it's what he meant). It was hard sending that text to my H. My daughter is not the only one who is proud.
D13 was at her friends all day and is spending the night tonight with her dad. Its just been me and D10 all day which has been nice.
I ran into my H's brother today. He has (again) split with his GF. They've been together over ten years and share a daughter, so more than his GF. Anyway, I asked how his GF was and he said that they don't talk much other than about their D7. He said that he felt she was focusing too much on herself, on going out and making friends, and not enough on D7 ... and then it clicked. The two times in the last year my H and I have had anything close to an argument (snide remarks aside) he has accused me of being selfish. He never elaborates but I think he resents me getting a life. Don't get me wrong. I am not out partying and leaving my children at home on their own. But when he has them, 50% of the time, I probably go out and do something. And I never tell him what that something is.
Its perception, and it is 100% his problem, but it does make a little more sense now. Anyway, food for thought. Not much I can do about it.
