Curtis , I feel for you dood . I know you would do anything you could to get things back to how they should be . You are only a year in and you have got a long road ahead . People here are on the other side of where you are and no matter how much we try to help , it won’t make sense .
If you have read DR , then you know the importance of baby steps and setting goals . You need to have them set out . No big ones like being back to before BD . Small ones like 1) she feels comfortable around me
1) a I am happy around her b) I show my confidence C) I am a leader , WITHOUT being controlling
If you love her , then you can take the steps that need to happen.
You can do it if you allow yourself .
I am not going to preach to you because I know how hard all of this is .
