Nope.. I would say you're right on track with the timeline we see on these boards. Honestly the sooner that you begin to feel that way, the better, because it shows that you're beginning to see your own self-worth. The sooner that you realize that they're gone and your goal should not be to win them back but for them to win YOU back because they're the ones that left the marriage... the greater your chances of earning the WAS's respect again. You don't want them to come back and you take them in with open arms because nothing would've been accomplished in that scenario other than the WAS proving that they can treat you however they want and you'll just take them right back..
Again.. No respect. And they'll probably leave at some point in the future. But if they truly have to FIGHT to come back into your life not only with words, but actions.. That's when/how their respect for you is rebuilt. Do not be a doormat.
Thanks so much. When I went to talk to a counselor, she also reminded me that I am not a doormat. I appreciate you pointing out for me that my GALing, 180ing, etc. is not to win him back. It is for me. And he should have to win ME back if he ever snaps out of his crisis mode. It is all just so unbelievable!
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
