Also, I am not even sure how much to tell our families during the holidays because he is not "participating". I don't want to lie, but I also don't want to reveal all that is truly going on just in case - the rare case - he bounces back in 2020 and changes his mind about wanting a divorce, staying out all hours of the night, etc. (Not likely but a gal can dream, can't I?)
I'm going to give you a spoiler on the DB'ing process. For some this comes sooner than it comes for others, but when you first being DB'ing you have in the back of your mind that you're doing these things to focus on yourself and become the best person you can be to lead your WAS back home. The whole lighthouse and keeping the road home smooth analogy.
What eventually happens though is you will find yourself and the person you truly want to be and you will discover that you don't really want your WAS back much anymore. For me it has taken a few months but I'm to the point that I am like.. if someone can treat me this terribly and walk completely out of my life like it means nothing to them, then 1) they're much more likely to do it in the future and 2) I don't deserve to have someone treat me like this... There are so many other great people in the world that would never treat us this way.
