Nope. Same story for me.. My W and I were perfectly fine and then within just a few days she was completely cold, distant, and gone emotionally within a few weeks gone physically. I used to say it would be easier if she had just died because it would be concrete and closure would be easier. It's been 4 months since BD for me and 3 months since she moved out and I will tell you that it gets a wholllllleeee lot easier. My W has made it easy on me though because we no longer see each other or speak under any circumstances, she isn't playing with my emotions with any breadcrumbs or anything. We see each other at rare events like my S4's dental surgery appointment and I assume she will be at his Christmas program tomorrow, but we just treat each other like strangers.
It is the fact that H is treating me like a total stranger (although we still stay in the same house) that is killing me!!! I am relieved that he atleast treats the kids the same, although he has neglected some of his responsibilities to them (e.g., school dropoffs, etc.). This makes me wonder though how he is able to compartmentalize the kids v. me. I am the "problem," in his eyes, I guess.
Also, I am not even sure how much to tell our families during the holidays because he is not "participating". I don't want to lie, but I also don't want to reveal all that is truly going on just in case - the rare case - he bounces back in 2020 and changes his mind about wanting a divorce, staying out all hours of the night, etc. (Not likely but a gal can dream, can't I?)
Last edited by HesAble; 12/19/1906:49 PM.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
