Am I the only spouse who literally feels like her H is just gone, almost like death? He is so cold and distant and it happened almost overnight. I had to grieve that loss of the person I knew because he is "gone" and will likely never come back again. Wow.
Nope. Same story for me.. My W and I were perfectly fine and then within just a few days she was completely cold, distant, and gone emotionally within a few weeks gone physically. I used to say it would be easier if she had just died because it would be concrete and closure would be easier. It's been 4 months since BD for me and 3 months since she moved out and I will tell you that it gets a wholllllleeee lot easier. My W has made it easy on me though because we no longer see each other or speak under any circumstances, she isn't playing with my emotions with any breadcrumbs or anything. We see each other at rare events like my S4's dental surgery appointment and I assume she will be at his Christmas program tomorrow, but we just treat each other like strangers.
She is actually living with OM now though, and my S4 is on the weeks she has him as well. We pass him back and forth every Monday at daycare so we don't have to see each other. The best thing now is that she no longer has any opportunities to treat me like I'm the dog crap under her shoe. The first few months of trying to sort out divorce/kid logistics were terrible because she treated me like I was the lowest of the low while SHE was the one that was cheating on me.. It's a strange phenomenon.
