There is no honor in any person having an affair and all the justifcation in the world cannot purify it. Who is really the culprit here? The OM for seducing her? The XW for pulling away from the marriage? Or you for "pushing her into the arms of another man." Because if your past behaviors. I want you to really think about that without any guilt? You can't control another persom and how they feel. You can't control the OM. You can't go back in time and fix your mistakes. But you can fix them now and learn from them. At the end of all this. Even if it fails. You kept your vow. You did the honorable thing, and you learned and grew a lot. Just the way I see it.
I agree with this opinion. Once my emotions are in check I realize how confronting or harming the OM would not be in my best interest. I will be fine in time. The death of any long relationship is very difficult to go through.
