"I might dropped my shoe down his throat while it remained on my foot. I digress, my soldier coming out."
I get that one. I know that feeling. Curb stomp. Its natural to feel that way, its mate gaurding. But short term emotions have long term consequences for you and you're family and kids. You have to keep cool, think logically, find yourself worth, and play the really long game. Your W is subject to her emotions. Look where that has gotten her in present situation. There is no honor in any person having an affair and all the justifcation in the world cannot purify it. Who is really the culprit here? The OM for seducing her? The XW for pulling away from the marriage? Or you for "pushing her into the arms of another man." Because if your past behaviors. I want you to really think about that without any guilt? You can't control another persom and how they feel. You can't control the OM. You can't go back in time and fix your mistakes. But you can fix them now and learn from them. At the end of all this. Even if it fails. You kept your vow. You did the honorable thing, and you learned and grew a lot. Just the way I see it.
