Not much to report. My parents are coming in town for Christmas, all my shopping for the most part is done and we are on Winter break so my girls have no sporting activities.
The Dr. has not met my mom and stepdad yet so that will be happening next week. It seems at this point in time it's just a formality. I hope she is happy with the presents I got her. Listed below for opinions!
Earrings Gun Clips Air Pods Reading Pillows Christmas Ornament (it's our first Christmas!) A bedside charging station for your phone Compression socks (she is on her feet all day) Car phone holder 24 Coupons redeemable for Acts Of Service (she loves acts of service)
Things are going really great, very normal, and I think we are on the cusp of it just being a matter of time before start having some more serious conversations and approach the topic of engagement. I still just am not quite ready yet though but I am not sure that she is not going to show me anything else. She has not changed much other than softening up since day one. She has been who she said she was from the beginning. She is beautiful, thoughtful, kind, and would be a very positive influence with my daughters. We went to dinner the other night, the 4 of us, and she sat right next to them just like they were her own. The restaurant manager even came up to us and commented on what great parents we were and that we have a beautiful family.
I did express some concerns to her last weekend regarding some red flags that I had picked up on regarding how she treated her XH. I have no idea how the conversation even came up She comments about how her XH didn't have a job and she paid for everything and towards the end of their marriage he wanted to turn the AC down because he was hot however she wouldn't let him because he didn't pay the electric bill. I just didn't seem like a partnership so I can't remember how the conversation came up but I told her that I did have some concerns over comments like that and just those situations in general. While I have no problems with a pre-nup and I don't want her money to me a R is a partnership and that kind of treatment is not acceptable. She went on to ask me if that was a concern of mine....and I told her it was. She said it was never an agreement between them that he would not work and when he lost his job and never got a new one he also never contributed around the house. He was also a spender, she is not so he just ended up blowing their money so it ended up getting to that point to where she controlled it all. He essentially emasculated himself. Anyway, I also told her that while I do well for myself I don't have Dr. money so there will be times that I might not be able to contribute 1/2 of something, like vacations, etc. She said her only expectation was that I pay half of the bills and do normal man things around the house. I am fine with all of that I just don't want it to feel like an arrangement or a transaction. I guess that is what separate accounts are for. IDK.
Trying to decide what to do for New Years. The Dr. is very practical and hates to spend money so just wants to keep it simple and go out to dinner and then just back to her place. Me on the other hand think we should go Downtown, get a hotel room, go to a nice dinner and do something different than what we normally get to do. It's just New Year's is so expensive and to me pretty overrated you know? Between dinner, drinks, hotel, etc. it would be a minimum of probably $700. So I don't know.
