I've been reading numerous threads, each having a different story but ultimately similar behaviors. I've read No More Mr Nice Guy, on the recommendation of many on here and also, incidentally, my C. My goodness me it was like looking at myself in the mirror and finally seeing who i am, who i have become. I demonstrated so many NGS traits it was a real awakening. It answered why i've been so passive, not wishing to rock the boat everything that will ultimately diminish respect from a WAW.
And thats the thing, i have always felt my opinion doesnt matter, go with the flow kinda Guy. But the resentment built up and manifested in negative ways, often completely unrelated to the moment in time.
I have been GAL, i have been DB'ing but, having thought about it, with no real sense of purpose other than to get myself through this period.
Now i have my plan. I need and want to GAL, i need to and want to DB the hell out of everything. I need to stop the passiveness, to stand up for myself, make myself heard. Be a bit more self serving, care about my needs first. These are all things i can do, because i know they are there, they are all needs i have pushed away in favour of putting what i felt was other peoples needs first. So time to cut the resentment, this is day 1 of my journey.
