it helps to know what you want and then refuse to settle for less.
I see that you recently did that Ginger, and I Think that’s gonna spark a change for you when you reenter the dating world.
Men don’t respect women that settle. They will work hard and value a woman that negotiates more for herself. You say that in the past, the guys found” the one” after you. That’s not because you are any less nice, intelligent pretty, funny, easy going then these other girls. I think it’s because you didn’t expect anything from them. Guys like to live up to expectations.
If what you wanted was a LTR, from the beginning - don’t accept less. Don’t be someone’s side piece. (Aka FWB) it’s devaluing and guys sense that they can take advantage. It’s the female equivalent for a guy being friend zoned and it takes time away from finding someone that is looking for what you are looking for.
Don’t give too much and make them work for you. You don’t have to play games or come on too strong to do this. Like if someone’s not putting in effort early on - don’t talk to him about it. (That’s for when your in a relationship and shows your attached a bit too early to even bring it up) Just detach and see what else is out there.
I know this sounds old fashioned and doesn’t correlate with feminism. But i think it’s realistic.
