Definitely option 2. I'm a big proponent of fighting for your parental rights and getting the most visitation you can. Regarding saving your M, that is way, way down the road. So don't back down from your parental rights in the hopes of appeasing her, because it won't. Nothing you can do will appease her for quite a while. In fact if you let her have her way, she will have even less respect for you.
