Cross countries separation EU

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hi all!

I have an important question I want to ask. After being here 2 weeks close to my family I have not been able to see our S1 and S6 outside of my visiting schedule according to the agreement I signed when I was in Germany with my W.

To give some background, when I signed the agreement I was all low and feeling guilty for the M issues and we signed a very basic agreement where:
> W gets very generous pension with some additional items that should not be there
> I visit Thursday to Monday every 15 days
> W gets to choose school for S1 and S6
> I stay in Germany
> The pension was calculated only based on my salary, W has a new job now and I do not know her salary. She did not even tell me her new address, I had to get it via the moving labels (this is so sad sometimes I feel like asking for the D myself)

This does not cover my family picking up the children when I am not there, weekly visits when I am here working from home, a fair pension...

My life situation is due to change and I am moving back to Spain so I have a great opportunity to change everything as both my home address and salary will change. I have 2 options.

1 - I use the same attorney we did (who favors her) and cause no issue
2 - I use my new one, I spend $2000 and make a new agreement. I have asked for it to remain a separation to what the attorney has laughed because it costs the same and implies the same as a D but I told her my vision is to save my M and hopefully R.

I want to defend my position but at the same time remain respectful and cordial to W because of course I am not going to initiate D (in her mind our M is dead I know but I am going to fight for this). What should I do?