Oh boy. No sense in critiquing everything you said so I just want touch on some points.
1. You are not a changed man in one year. You just aren't. It's a complete and total Work in Process. You indicated you're a better listener but you do not listen to us or you're wife.
2. She's told you she's not attracted to you. That doesn't mean physically (most likely). She's not attracted to you because you're weak, controlling, passive aggressive etc. These are things you should be working on.
3. Sending her links on affairs is something someone does when they first find out about the affair. Not someone who has been DBing for a year.
