Good for you! Make plans for you and your children and if he wants to come along fine...but if he doesn't...it's on him and he's the one that is hurting himself. Children do not remain small for very long and before you know it, then are grown. Enjoy the time away and just leave him to his own mess.
Keep the focus on you and your family during this holiday season.
I am learning some things from you folks! Thanks for all your great advice.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years