Now that I'm officially in the MLC board, I'm wondering if there is any advice on my general approach, post- R-talk instigated by my H a few weeks ago, when he let me know he's planning to file very soon (more on that in the first post).
My mindset has been pretty much the same as the last 5 months or so before this talk: he's out all the time with his new friends, I ask no questions, I keep things friendly and light when approached, I aim to keep my focus on me. I want to remove myself as much as possible from being, in his view, the source of his unhappiness. I would think he should be flying high because he's finally gotten to do whatever he wants for months now, but that doesn't appear to be the case. He's going to have to realize on his own (or not) that that still isn't bringing him happiness.
Still working on detaching, but I think hearing him say he was planning to file has helped me detach a little more; it has reminded me again I really have NO control over what he does. The only thing that's really changed after that talk seems to be his behavior, in that it feels like he's trying to put more distance between us. I think he's realizing he's going to have to start communicating with me about the D/arrangements, and he doesn't want to.
In the meantime, I've been reading back through older threads here, and that is always helpful. I'm so grateful for this support!
