Wow that's a terrible story. I think this really highlights one of the reasons we focus so much here on working on yourself and becoming detached and independent, because whether recon happens or not you're prepared to move on to the next chapter in life. No one is attracted to clinginess and desperation so he never really had a chance with her.
It sounds like you on the other hand are doing well, so that's good to hear! Very sorry to hear about your friend though.
