MLC or Exit Afffair?

[HesAble]

So H is still trying to decide what he is doing for the holidays. He does not want to travel to visit relatives with the kids and me as we have traditionally done at Christmas. He probably wants to stay in the area with his AP (I have no solid evidence of an AP but when you spend several nights a week outside our home, coming in at 7 and 8 a.m., that suggests a PA to me.) Because we do not live around family, we generally travel at least once a year at Christmas so the kids can visit grandparents, aunts, uncles and others.

I have decided to make holiday plans for the kids and me and let him know that he can join us if he wants. We will proceed with or without him, however. He will NOT ruin our holiday. If I stay in town, he will likely not even come home at night anyway and he barely speaks to me when he is here.

It is just 1 month post-DB and I am already so tired of H's shenanigans. I do not know if I can be strong enough to stand as long as some others have although I am inspired by all of you. Thank goodness for this online community! It helps to know that I am not alone.