My only suggestion is that you state exactly what you feel. It is a valid need to want to feel heard and understood in a relationship.
He may recoil. He may be passive-aggressive. He may feel criticized.
If you suppress your needs, it will not promote a healthy relationship. Yes, it's scary. But if your H cannot accept that you want to improve your communication with him.....
Would you rather ask for what you want, and potentially have some relationship conflict as a result? Or would you rather suppress what you want, and later regret that you never asked, and feel like a doormat?
