Pick your battles. In the big scheme of things is the toy at the table really worth going to battle over? This is going to be one of many many changes that you encounter in her parenting style. Remember, this is not the girl you married!
My other advice is to not react. Take some time, calm down so you aren't emotional when you confront her. Jumping up and confronting her right then was not the right move because you hadn't even had time to process it.
I am with LH, apologize only if you were wrong. Do not apologize just because you feel bad for her.
Agree, I feel like sometimes the LBS and the WAS use other things as proxy battles for their ongoing conflicts. Just be mindful if that's the case.
