"Walking Out Of The Valley"

[joejoe1]

BB,

It will never go away. I dream about beating the Sh&t out the OM every now and again. My W is afraid of what would happen if I ever saw him. I have never seen him. I might dropped my shoe down his throat while it remained on my foot. I digress, my soldier coming out.

Ok, listen, you are making this a you against him situation. You need to make it a you only situation. Stop giving him power, your reactions, gives him power in her life. If you ignore him and focus on you then his power/affection dimmers. Your actions tonight light his fire more, when your actions over the last week has been weaking it.

Your WW is not going to have a 180 on her feeling's for him, so don't just place expectations of her all of sudden hating him. That's not how this work. They were in a relationship. And she now has to CHOOSE you over that relationship. It's not an easy choice, but it's the right one and you have to allow her too see that.

Jim and others have told you there will be false starts. She came to your game
Good, she didn't sit next to OM good.

You will be on the lookout for her doing wrong, and it's easy to go down that path, but you have to acknowledge all her actions. Good and bad. Stay the course. She's coming home to you. She's telling you her feeling's, she's communicating with you. All these are good signs.

Oh, don't confront this coward of a man. You do that and you provide sympathy for him. No thanks. Let him wallow.

How emotions are as stable as a tower of Jinga blocks. She's going to be all over the place. That's why we call this a roller coaster. It's a ruff ride so hold on tight and get your seat belt buckled.

You are doing great. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Joejoe