Might be worth having some co parenting sessions with her to make sure she is being a responsible parent and keep doors open and civil especially for the kids maybe some of her past actions will come out for resolution
I would guess she wants you back under her thumb and has not really done much work on herself except dumped the loser.
I would also wonder if you don't get back with her if she will opt for therapy and help or find another OM.
She is reconnecting, but this seems like a fast MLC Im sure its possible, but without her getting help..I would wonder is it real recovery
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