What you are dealing with is tough. My situation (living in separate rooms) is similar but the OW is in another country. I like that my H is home, but I also know that if the OW was here, we would possibly have a different situation. My H left the MB when he returned from being gone for 3 months for work.
I would love to have a regular convo with him, but he is MLC and can hardly look at me. I am GAL, and when I leave and he is home, I just leave. I do not tell him goodbye and I definitely do not tell him where I am going and when I might be back. In this instance, I am mirroring what he is doing to me. Periodically, he may address me when he is leaving if I am right there, but I think it is because I am obviously standing nearby.
Since OW is out of the country, I know he is frustrated. Too bad. I discovered their relationship when he originally left for work for that three month period. Their relationship is the craziest rollercoaster. ( I thought I was on a rollercoaster, but theirs is full of jealousy, insecurities and immaturity) I can see now, that their R is currently not the best situation but I by no means think he is ready to let that R go.
I periodically see glimpses of my H that I used to know. I enjoy those brief glimpses and I appreciate he is still there.
We are a family that loves Star Wars. We would in the past all look forward to going to see the new movies when they came out. I am going on my own. I know MLC is such a distraction, but I need to live. In all of my GAL, I am willing to talk or go somewhere together, but I am not asking. If he wants to ask, I will listen.
I guess what I am saying in my limited experience with this, is keep GAL, it is hard, but actually, I enjoy doing things on my own. Once I realized that the sitch was he was doing his thing, I was going to do mine. I am sad inside, but at this point it is pointless to tell him anything.
Best of luck, I will be checking in to see how it goes for you.
