I have the same thoughts about timing. Keep in mind we agreed to this over 2 months ago.
My W said she wanted to sell the house by summer and get a D almost 10 months ago. Yet here we still are.
I know the feeling, man - truly I do. Logic will not work here. Time has no meaning here. I'm sorry you are in this position, but that's the reality of it, unfortunately.
Originally Posted by unchien
She does need to face the consequences.
Now if somehow we could fix the custody and money issue, of course I wouldn’t be pushing D. At the same time, I don’t see how this is possible.
Thought experiment here - theoretically, put aside the D talk for a sec -
Have you established any boundaries regarding finances with W before?
You have said earlier that she trusts your financial acumen. So what if - and again, it's a big what if and in no way am I telling you what to do here, its just a thought - you told W you have changed your mind. You have decided to re-run the budget and have found that the finances are currently unsustainable? Theoretically, what do you think would happen?
I did this with my W in the middle of all the S and D talk from her (this happened in upside down land - where she was pushing S and D and still asked me if I would rework "our" budget..?!?)
It was an opportunity for me to set a boundary, and I did. It was her first consequence and boy did she get angry. But I stuck to it - made my case and that was that.
Just a few thoughts from another possible route. Others may tell you to just pull the plug. Maybe you should, maybe you shouldn't - I can't tell you what to do. that's up to you to decide.
