That is all very well. One of the points I was trying to make was also not to be to hard on yourself. Let's say for the sake of argument that she stumbles and you would be beating yourself up for hugging hwer or something. You walk your path, enforce only the bondaries that are enforceable. You watch her actions and look for consistency.
Another thing you will have probably notice is that your intuition started kicking in, i.e. your "bull$hit detector" got switched on. In recenty weeks/months I bet you got a lot better at detecting bull cookies.
