Please don't give up on me. I'm scared, worried, feel powerless, hopeless, it's hard to believe that this will end. I'll feel good one minute then depressed another, then I'm crying, back to good, etc. I look at my kids and I'm grateful. My coworkers love me and I am grateful. Then I get swallowed again by negative thoughts. I have so many doubts. My paranoia gets me. I think people here are just writing positive things to convince themselves as well as people like me. And yet it's only been 8 months. I'm light years away from where I thought I'd be at 8 months out. Yes I think this despite how crappy I feel.
What are the negative thoughts? My suggestion break them down and you will see how silly they are.
take for example if you feel like this "I will always be alone while he has OM"
First, it's not true. You have your kids, and your co-workers. you have the ability to make friends. Even though you aren't ready, you yourself said that you were a catch for any man. When/if you kids have kids (I know, you don't want to think about it) you will be a part of that as well. You will never be alone unless you get deserted on a island.
And that "thing" he has with his OM is probably far from perfect. It was started on deceit and it could fizzle out.
