Kas, why does S17 say he hates D14? On the one hand this might just be a "teens being teens" thing, but on the other hand I have had personal experience with some bad people who started out as bad kids. They were liars and manipulators even at an early age. One was a step-sister that thankfully didn't move into my dad's house until I was in college, but wow the stories. I used to go into work on Monday morning and people would gather around to hear the latest "Amber stories". She was a real piece of work. Stole everything she could lay her hands on, was a master manipulator and a liar's liar. Even in her early teens used sexuality to persuade people (especially men). I used to tell people "you know how you hear people talking about good kids going bad because they run with the wrong crowd? Well Amber is the wrong crowd." She was evil as far back as I remember. Stole her mom's car at 13, wrecked it, walked home and put the keys back on the dresser and convinced everyone she had no clue what had happened. Stole her grandmother's wedding rings and kept yelling "I swear to God I didn't take them!!!" as her mom went through her things (and found them). Eventually started shooting up heroin and then the serious crimes began. I have a thousand stories.
Anyway I am not suggesting your D is anything like Amber, but my point is your S may have some valid reasons. I've seen enough Ambers in my life that when someone says that one kid in their family hates another it's a red flag to me that they should dig deeper into that to make sure there aren't some serious issues causing the rift. How many stories have you read of a kid OD'ing and the parents "had no idea". Don't assume anything.
