You said before that your children feel safe talking to you but that it is a double edged sword and you feel like you are being ganged up on. What is it they say that makes you feel ganged up on? Are you strong enough to separate the feeling of being attacked and focus instead on what they are saying and not necessarily how they are saying it?
The reason I feel bad is because I haven't yet been able to fix it. It's not like I hear it once and voila all better. I'm favoring one kid over the others. I still want to favor him because he's special needs. D17 and D14 said they are fine with this as long as they get the same special treatment. Sounds easy but it's not. It's an old habit and now D17 is going after S19. I keep telling her (and him) this is all me but crap this is a mess. S19 is starting to feel bad too. I don't know how to fix this. I don't even know what that looks like.
